If your spouse should ever hate you enough to call the cops and cry DV, who gets to stay in the house and who gets to find a couch in someone else's living room. Is someone writing a check to the party who has to move out or is every cat responsible for their own litter box?
Well you could leave that up to the courts (who will rule against a male every time, with few exceptions), or you could write that exact scenario into a prenup agreement. Chances are, it will affect someones motivation to behave rationally if things get heated. Granted no one writes DV accusations into a prenup, but when the exit doors are clearly marked, along with the prices and temperatures outside of that door, irrational individuals are internally compelled to behave rationally on both gender lines. I'm not saying this will save your marriage, but it may be the ingredients that saves you from having a crazy spouse pull this crap when things get sour.
It's not very Christian-like, but it's a good testament to the strength of a marriage when the exit door is marked clearly and can be taken with two seconds of notice. You and your spouse are saying, "If you don't like it here, there's the door, I won't waste a minute of my life with someone who doesn't want to be with me." Within the fathers rights movement, there are even guys with the wisdom to jointly write a letter of intent of how they intend to share custody of their children should they ever part. While this document will not be legally binding, it will help to level the playing field later if things should turn rotten.
Of course, you can say you know better than a bunch of bitter divorce guys who you may think have brought this all upon themselves. It's your funeral and we'll still be here fighting for equal rights when its your turn to go through the ringer.
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